Wednesday, October 10, 2007
Day 42- Miss Chief (read mischief)
I just felt I should share this with all of you. I just walked into the kitchen to find my daughter sitting in the middle of the kitchen table helping herself to a bag of Craisins I had left there. She certainly is a little Miss Chief! 
Day 42 continued- Judgement day
It is interesting how easy it is to judge somebody.
What's particularly interesting is how often we judge others by telling them not to be so judgemental, or that it's wrong of them to be so affected by other people's judgements of them. Somehow, we think we have the right to tell someone our opinion on what they are doing wrong, but nobody else does. Or, maybe not to even tell them about it, but just think it or talk about it to someone else. We hate to think of people judging the ones we love, and making them feel bad about themselves, but then we turn around and judge the people we love, too. Even judging them for feeling too bad about themselves!
It's a funny thing, really. It's so easy to transition from "helpful" to "critical." We love someone and want to help them, but somewhere along the line our helpfulness changes to criticism and, often, judgement about how very wrong they're being. I do this all the time, especially with my husband. In fact, it seems like the more you love someone, the more you do this to them. It's so so sad, because all you really wanted in the first place was to make them feel better, or to help them fix something dangerous or damaging in themselves, but you really end up making them feel so much worse instead.
Anyway, to all those I love to whom I've done this, I want to apologize. You are the greatest people I know, and I would be so lost without you.
On a less serious note, I am seriously thinking of throwing my TV out the window. All of my favorite shows seem to, how shall I put this, seriously suck this year! What happened to all of the writers?? Did they all spend the Summer partying hard, resulting in a serious loss of brain cells?? I'm beginning to think that I could write better than these people. Maybe I will. Maybe I'll write my own television show and spend each night acting it out for my husband (securely shackled to the couch, or I'd never be able to get him to sit still that long!) . Seriously! Would that be weird? Wait, you're judging me, aren't you?! :)
What's particularly interesting is how often we judge others by telling them not to be so judgemental, or that it's wrong of them to be so affected by other people's judgements of them. Somehow, we think we have the right to tell someone our opinion on what they are doing wrong, but nobody else does. Or, maybe not to even tell them about it, but just think it or talk about it to someone else. We hate to think of people judging the ones we love, and making them feel bad about themselves, but then we turn around and judge the people we love, too. Even judging them for feeling too bad about themselves!
It's a funny thing, really. It's so easy to transition from "helpful" to "critical." We love someone and want to help them, but somewhere along the line our helpfulness changes to criticism and, often, judgement about how very wrong they're being. I do this all the time, especially with my husband. In fact, it seems like the more you love someone, the more you do this to them. It's so so sad, because all you really wanted in the first place was to make them feel better, or to help them fix something dangerous or damaging in themselves, but you really end up making them feel so much worse instead.
Anyway, to all those I love to whom I've done this, I want to apologize. You are the greatest people I know, and I would be so lost without you.
On a less serious note, I am seriously thinking of throwing my TV out the window. All of my favorite shows seem to, how shall I put this, seriously suck this year! What happened to all of the writers?? Did they all spend the Summer partying hard, resulting in a serious loss of brain cells?? I'm beginning to think that I could write better than these people. Maybe I will. Maybe I'll write my own television show and spend each night acting it out for my husband (securely shackled to the couch, or I'd never be able to get him to sit still that long!) . Seriously! Would that be weird? Wait, you're judging me, aren't you?! :)
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